11 Best Hookup Sites: The Top Legit Sex Dating Websites Compared

July 19, 2019/ Tony

Over the last 3 years, I’ve tested 17 popular hookup sites and apps.  There’s been some good ones, some bad ones, and some downright awful ones.

In short, I’ve got a lot of experience browsing hookup sites and searching for casual sex online.

So in this post, I’m bringing it all together and rounding up the sites that actually got me results, along with some steamy details of each.


Craigslist Activities (Formerly Craigslist Personals)Best Free Hookup Site & Local Personals

Highlights & Features
  • Simple layout
  • Zip code search
  • Can change cities for localizes results
  • Briefing about the age, location, and what the poster is looking for

You’ve probably heard of Craigslist Personals before, it was the best hookup site from 2001 to 2018. However, in 2018 they shut the personals section down because of the FOSTA-SESTA law passed by congress.

At first, I panicked, I had used personals for about 5 years to find casual sex whenever I needed it. And when I didn’t, I still checked out personals regularly just because it was pretty darn fun to see the missed encounters, naked pics, and all the passion that came with it.

A takedown felt like the end of the world for the hookup scene.

But after a few months, everyone moved to posting in the ‘Activities’ section of craigslist for sex (top left corner on the CL homepage). And now in late 2019 it’s just as active as personals was before the shutdown.

The main downside of Craigslist Activities is that the posts are a bit more discreet and you can’t post nudes, so you need to use a bit of analysis and guesstimate who is down for free sex (almost everyone is though). Just don’t say anything about trading money for it and your time is guaranteed to be smooth.

Each post normally has the contact info for the person you have an interest. You would need to read their proposals to see if that person is someone you want to have a romantic encounter. Then, you would need to get to know them, trade photos, and ask questions. Craigslist is just an introduction.

My hope is that the new law will be overturned and Craigslist personals will be restored to its rightful place as the best adult hookup site ever. Until then, I put together a list of my favorite Craigslist personals alternatives that you can find by clicking HERE. Many of the sites on this list are also on that one, but with an emphasis on the classifieds.

  • Free
  • So damn easy to work
  • Straight to the point local m4w, m4m, w4w, or w4mw hookups
  • Most users do not have photos
  • Too much time and energy: need to email the prospect unless they put their phone number, kik, or snap in the post
  • No verification of any kind; any damn body can post on CL
  • You need to manually find the Activities and Personals sections by searching manually through the Craigslist.com homepage
Our Rating of Craigslist Activities (Formerly Craigslist Personals)

Adult Friend FinderBest Site Dedicated to Hookups Only

Highlights & Features
  • #1 site for local hookups
  • 80+ million users
  • Thousand of matches
  • Virtual gift-giving
  • Galleries for Private and Public photos
  • 'Hot or Not' game to keep you entertained while searching for someone
  • Comprehensive search with keywords targeting
  • Visa, Discover, MasterCard, JCB, and Sepa are all accepted if you decide to sign up for a membership

The main reason AdultFriendFinder isn’t at the top of my list is that it isn’t a 100% free hookup site. They require guys to pay a monthly membership fee in an effort to make the girl to guy ratio more balanced.

Adult Friend Finder started back in 1996 and was one of the first hookup sites ever. When most veteran swingers are looking for some extra side-action, they will check their AFF messages and hope to see that notification icon.

The people on this site are serious about casual sex. To message new people, you need a gold membership, but to receive messages it’s completely free. This structure balances out the girl to guy ratio perfectly, and it’s easy to find responsive women.

The site has lots of other cool features, too, it feels like a community more than other sites. There’s a forum for asking sex questions and posting ads for local sex meetups. There’s two-way chat so you can really get to know someone before you meet them. There’s also profile pages, blogs, messaging, chatting, and voice chat. They just added sex courses too, that teach people about bondage, squirting, and hookup strategies.

At the end of the day, this is the best hookup site for connecting with someone regardless of where they are located on the globe. Finding a friend is easy.

  • 25+ year-old website
  • Find people all over the world
  • Gold membership is worth the price
  • Can find everyone from gays, lesbian, swinger parties, exhibitionists, fantasy role-playing, just kickin' it buddies and, of course, friends!
  • Registration is lightning fast - only need to provide a password, username, email, sex, age, and the type of companion you are looking for
  • 'Gold' membership charges a monthly subscription
  • 2016 data breach left a bad taste in user's mouths about using the site
  • Can't send messages for free UNLESS the person sends you one first OR you are a gold member
  • No Android or iOS app, sorry
  • Has a high number of fake dating profiles and inactive members who don't get online anymore
Our Rating of Adult Friend Finder

Ashley MadisonBest Hookup Site for Married People & Easy Casual Sex

Highlights & Features
  • Can hide your identity with a digital mask on your Avatar or face picture
  • Men have to pay to send messages
  • Can use it on Apple (iOS) or Google Play (Android)
  • Almost 60 million members since 2001 and growing quickly
  • Too many men on there, so good luck fighting through the stampede of horny bulls

Sometimes people get trapped in marriages and want a way out. Ashley Madison is a site that helps people, especially married women, find no strings attached hookups.

You need money to be on this website.

The women on this site are mostly in their mid-30s to early 40s, which is the horniest time in a woman’s life. She wants to feel young again and have fun before she hits that elderly age. Even then she might still try to catch her a young stud on the side. Top that with a sexless marriage and you can find some of the most intense and easy hookups.

When I’ve used this site I was able to get a date with about half the women I messaged, and about half of those conversations turned into sex. The women would also give me gifts from time to time, which I happily obliged. But I wouldn’t consider myself a sugar baby. Compared to other sites, that ratio is not even close.

The obvious downside of this site is that you are helping people cheat on their significant others. Not cool. But hey, life is short and to each their own. It’s up to you to decide if it is right or wrong, and if you’re willing to give it a try. Just make sure their husbands aren’t MMA fighters before you jump in the sack.

  • Free signup
  • Population is worldwide
  • Helping women safely cheat without getting caught
  • Stronger than ever data encryption protection
  • Many of the older men are unattractive, so if you are looking you will soar like an eagle
  • Loyal user base; there is always someone willing to meet on Ashley Madison
  • Infamous hack ended relationships with divorces, suicides, and settlements (but that didn't stop men from getting on there)
  • Low number of women on there, so again, you have to fight for the prize with other dudes
  • Not many video reviews on YouTube about Ashley Madison because who wants to admit to cheating, right?
  • Sinful energy in the air; encourages infidelity
  • Reports of fake bots and fake profiles
  • Too many negative reviews
  • Advertisements
Our Rating of Ashley Madison

TinderBest and Easiest Hookup App to Use

Highlights & Features
  • Auto-renewal
  • Paid subscription
  • 500-word max character description
  • iTunes and Google Play app
  • 50 million users from more than 190 countries
  • Requires Facebook to sign up to verify your identity to prevent catfishing attempts
  • Can change location if you are traveling to any city using a Passport feature
  • Infamous matchmaking system with Swipe left of Swipe right features
  • Quick summary of the user by location, age, and sex

If you know about Tinder then you know about that Swipe left and Swipe right feature when you match with someone. I have matched with so many people in my area I thought an overload of pussy was coming my way, and it did for the most part.

Tinder is popular among a lot of young folks, so expect teen booty calls and snap sex shows.

  • Affordable; only $10 a month if you are under 30 and $20 a month if you are over 30
  • App is very easy to use
  • Lightning-fast matches
  • Hands will hurt from doing all those swipes
  • Fake profiles: No photo verification; anyone can put any picture up there
  • More men than women
  • Low-quality people
  • Bad user interface
  • Need to go through like 100 profiles just to get one
  • Not enough matches - for some people
Our Rating of Tinder

R4R SubredditsBest Free Hookup Site for Swingers, Hotwifes, and Cuckolding

Highlights & Features
  • Moderators
  • Rules to follow
  • Join and Create Post
  • A familiar format that Redditors like
  • 66,000 people are part of the Swingersr4r, but only about 200 online/ 52,000 are part of HotWifeRequests, but only about 100 online
  • Need to get verified before joining these groups
  • Sorted by Hot, New, Controversial, Top, Rising
  • Card, Classic Reddit, Compact makes messages easy to read
  • Share, Save, Hide, or Report posts
  • Posts, Rules, Guides, and FAQ sections

There are many ‘R4R’, (Redditor for Redditor) Subreddit communities that are ok places for finding a hookup, swinger partners, cuckold, cuck, hot bull, or hot wife.

The problem I have with Reddit is that when you post a comment everyone can see it unless you message the person directly. Moreover, you don’t know what the other party look like so they could catfish you anytime. I had to put in more work to find someone on Reddit.

  • Completely free to use
  • Easy to work
  • Can learn a lot about the person based on their posts before you actually send them a message
  • People from these groups post hardcore pics of themselves all the time
  • People don't like to show their face but only their body
  • Limited information about this group
Our Rating of R4R Subreddits

FetlifeBest Fetish Meetup Website

Highlights & Features
  • A place for kink
  • Android app
  • Can search for events, members, and certain kinds kinks
  • 12 sexual orientations

I have a personal fetish called jizz on jeans where I love to see women bending over in skintight jeans with cum on them. I don’t know where this deep psychological fetish came from, but anyway.

I was able to find my dream model and she understood what I wanted and didn’t judge me. At Fetlife, you will find someone who shares your fetish.

  • Words containing negatives like rape, blood, and incest are blocked to prevent people from posting that shit
  • Private information is protected with the best SSL encrypted tech
  • All-inclusive community
  • Easy use
  • Breeding ground for predators and crazies; some fetishes are meant to stay private
  • Nigerian scammers are on there pretending to be fetsers
  • Manipulative people
  • Lots of gays
  • Low response rate
Our Rating of Fetlife

GrindrBest Gay Hookup Site/App

Highlights & Features
  • A comfortable safe space for LGBTQ hookups
  • See who 'Viewed You'
  • Proud of providing equality for all people
  • Help Center
  • Encourages STD testing and promotes a positive sexual health environment

Grindr is a great website for gay men looking for sex and hookups across the globe. Not to mention it does positive things in sexual health for the LGBT community.

Grindr LLC is registered in West Hollywood, an infamous gay area, so one can draw the conclusion that it’s owned and operated by the same demographic using the website. However, ownership jumps from one company to another, often like a game of hot potato because there are entities that keep buying and then selling this very popular website for higher prices each time.

Signing up requires a verification code from your email. After the verification completes, you can add a name to your profile and an optional photo. Once accepted, a list of gay guys will show three in a row and the ones with small green dots in the lower lefthand corners of their introduction photos are currently online.

The Grindr app can be downloaded on Google or Android by people who are 17+. 10+ million people downloaded the Android app, but I’m unsure how many downloaded the Apple version because I can’t see the numbers because I don’t have an iOS operated device. But Grindr is #60 of all social networking apps on iTunes.

  • Great for finding M4M hookups/sex
  • Easy to use and browse profiles
  • 100% Free
  • Worldwide reach
  • App only; no desktop website version
  • Majority of guys are sex addicts (could be considered a pro for some)
  • Forced to give a phone number before proceeding with an account
Our Rating of Grindr

Alt.comBest BDSM Hookup Site

Highlights & Features
  • Matchmaking algorithm
  • 3.5+ million worldwide members
  • Groups, videos, photos, instant messenger, and chat rooms on the profiles
  • Answered questions about your personality and fetish will show on the screen

When I first started my online empire building some time ago I came across how popular BDSM is in our society. I’m talking about celebrities were open with their BDSM fetishes like gayman Ricky Martin, who like golden showers – “loco” – or Angelina Jolie who has a thing for vials of blood.

the first place I went to try out my BDSM fetish was Alt.com. The women I met were complete freaks into all types of things. They also didn’t bullshit around and got to the point, very serious about what they believed.

  • Free membership
  • Comforting website format
  • Gold and Silver membership
  • Large BDSM kink community for roleplay
  • Some fake profiles
  • Too many bad reviews on TrustPilot
Our Rating of Alt.com

OkCupidBest Free Hookup Site/ Best Hookup Site for Teens and College Students

Highlights & Features
  • Profiles really go deep about the person
  • Google Android (4.4) and Apple iOS users are welcomed
  • Icon shows who visited your profile
  • 22 genders and 14 sexual orientations
  • Matching algorithms based on math schematics from questionnaires

For a completely free site you can use okcupid.com. This site has different settings and filters you can use to search for people who are only looking for casual sex. You might occasionally bump into some people who are looking for relationships, but you can just skip them and sort through the next batch of people.

You have your teen dating site and most of the women I seen on there was a bit immature because of this. Like the girl I met who I will call Lofonda. She straight up lied to be about every damn thing. So, I left her ass at Five Guys and let them have a bite at her.

You will need to do some detective, investigative work on OkCupidbecause of the catfishing attempts. Unlike Ashley Madison, where you find many secure women.

  • Attracts young people; 20s and 30 somethings
  • Super popular; hottest dating website among people of this generation
  • Profile dating tips
  • Smooth user interface
  • User friendly; free and easy to use
  • Have to agree to their terms of service to not harass anyone; need to behave or get banned
  • Inactive profiles
  • Does not have group chatting
  • Quality of women are nonexistent; you will mostly find freaks
  • West African scammers and Western hackers seemed to have made their way on this site
  • Women might not write back because they have so many messages
Our Rating of OkCupid

Seeking.comBest Hookup Site For Women

Highlights & Features
  • Available for Android
  • Sugar Baby University teaching women how to properly entertain these men
  • 13 million users and growing from over 149 countries
  • Men can send 10 messages for free
  • Men can buy items on a Sugarbaby's Amazon Wishlist to get her attention
  • Credit Card, PayPal, and mobile payments
  • Can see who Viewed, Favorite, and Favorites you
  • Many respected publications like Wall Street Journal, Business Insider, CNN, and Huffington Post featured this site
  • Search tool will show different girls according to body type, education, hobbies, language, activities. and more

Seeking.com aka SeekingArrangement is a great site if you are a woman who is interested in love and finding a wealthy guy.

This site hooks up wealthy men that are at least millionaires, with above-average women. It also works with wealthy women finding young studs, but in my experience testing out the site, that is much less common.

If you like the idea of having a guy take care of you and fly you out to Greece for your first date, then this might be worth trying.
After all, if a guy is successful enough to be rich, he has probably done something interesting to get there. The site boasts itself as a place for ‘Hypergamy’ which is the ‘act of women marrying into a higher class’.

  • Backmail is prevented with background checks into the men on the site
  • So many people to choose from
  • Does not have automatic recurring billing to prevent unexpected charges
  • Desperate girls
  • Too many fake profiles
  • Don't expect sex all the damn time
  • Need to give up information about your income (for men)
  • If you are a Splenda Daddy looking for a quick fuck without reciprocating a financial gift, this website ain't for you
Our Rating of Seeking.com

Plenty of FishAnother Site for One Night Stands

Highlights & Features
  • Worldwide legitimate hookup site where thousands join daily
  • Known worldwide; go anywhere on planet earth and you will find a fish looking for sex
  • People are very blunt about what they want and don't care about hurting your feelings
  • Android and iOS app
  • Search features filter specifics about education, income, age, sex, hair color, eye color, and ethnicity
  • Relationship Chemistry Predictor with 73 questions about family, personality, and perspective about life will help you to match

You have plenty of women looking for plenty of dick on Plenty of Fish, so you will definitely find someone. My luck has been strong on this website. I have gotten the most sex from here than any other site because most of the women are average like me.

However, you also have a lot of low-quality women or catfishes who come from rough backgrounds. Some of them are just plain weird, so it will be difficult finding quality dating options. I’m talking about women who you can take to Kentuckian Fried Chicken for some biscuits and they’ll give you some buns. Women who look like they should be on the next Jerry Springer episode or grew up in Chernobyl.

Another problem is the number of young girls here. If you do meet someone that’s cute and into you, you might need to ask to see her driver’s license or state ID. If she looks young then she probably is. However, you will find grown teens (18,19) and 20 somethings there.

  • Quick
  • Free
  • Very popular; plenty of fish
  • Great for making booty calls
  • Personality assessment for member matching
  • People primarily looking for sex; NEVER, I repeat, NEVER look for a long term relationship here
  • Too many men
  • Too many young folks
  • Paid account is not good
  • No video chat feature
  • Can't upload videos of yourself
  • Assholes and cunts
Our Rating of Plenty of Fish

Passion.ComFancy Hookup Site

Highlights & Features
  • Tabs pulling up information about New Members, Member Areas, Advanced Search
  • Searching by gender, relationships, location, sex, age, and username
  • Counter shows your views, friends messages, and favorites
  • See personal blogs written by other users
  • Send flirts and receive them
  • Update status on your profile just like the function on Facebook
  • 90 million registered members and 10,000 online anytime
  • Worldwide website with members from every part of the globe
  • Can do private calls with other members

If you consider yourself too classy for Adult Friend Finder and prefer to hook up after throwing off the high heels, suits, or elegant dresses then passion.com might be for you.

It has a newsfeed style with profiles so you can add people you are interested in as ‘interests’, you can see if they like you back. This makes messaging them more smooth and easy than a site like AFF or KinkyHookup, where you don’t always know if someone is interested right away. The site is also geared towards passionate short-term relationships, which usually means above-average attractiveness people are on the site.

  • Been around since 90s
  • Great user interface I got comfortable with
  • People like sex on there
  • The easiest site to use
  • Webcam communications
  • Quick registration
  • No mobile support for Android
  • Random messages from bots
  • Many fake and inactive profiles
  • Weird commercials from 2008 that makes me think WTF was that
Our Rating of Passion.Com

Before becoming a full-time writer, he was a hardcore porn watcher spending 12-hour days surfing xxx adult websites for 20 years. He has witnessed the drastic change of internet porn over the years and is your guide to the past present and future of the adult industry.
  • John Lux says:

    good blog

  • Loki says:

    These sites never worked for me…

    • thepleasureseeker says:

      Hi Loki,
      Maybe you could try the bumble app, which is a more chic version of Tinder, or Grindr which is the M4M version of Tinder.

      Other than that I feel like I’ve covered every flavor of hookup site, I’m not sure what to tell you.

      If you know any other good ones you think should be on the list please feel free to share them!

  • Rustedout says:

    very disappointing using some of the listed sites. Experienced several “fake” users. Sites are highly over-priced for the value received.

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