11 Best Affair Sites and Apps: Top Tools for Discreet Married Dating, Reviewed

  • March 21, 2024
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  • Tony

Is having an affair right, wrong, unethical?

Everyone has different opinions on this, but new research on human psychology has found that affairs can even be healthy when they are done right. Acting as a much-needed release of pent up sexual energy, frustration, and passion.

Books like Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person, say that affairs are an essential part of keeping a relationship healthy and sane in the long run.


The author of the book, psychologist Alain de Botton, claims our need for sex with new partners is part of being human and deeply embedded in our psychology.  He then goes on to say, so is jealousy. Claiming it is just as important to make sure our existing partners never ever discover we are seeing someone else.  Long story short, affairs and affair sites work great as long as we never get caught or raise suspicions.

Ideally, a better alternative to affairs is an open relationship where both partners have clearly established rules on flings and hookups.  After my first two affairs, my wife and I came to an agreement we could have married hookups with other people.  As long as we #1) never bring our AP(affair partner) or hookup into our home, #2) don’t see them longer than 2 months,  #3) never speak about our hookups and side lovers to each other in detail (although we do say i’m going out with a hookup, that took some working up to though).

And it totally works for us!  I’d highly recommend trying it out if possible, but if not…

Enter Affair Sites

Unfortunately, not all of us are in the position to transition to an open marriage.  Whether it’s because of family members being stuck in the past, too religious, or people not open to learning about basic behavioral psychology when it comes to relationships.

That’s where affair sites come in.  The best affair websites help you have a healthy affair, where you get to satisfy your craving for sexual exploration, while simultaneously lowering your risk of being caught and eliminating the big ugly potential downside of affairs, jealousy.

In the rest of this post, I’ll be counting down my top 11 affair sites to use for discreet hookups or married dating.  I still use these sites to find affair partners, and some of the APs I’ve found with them have been life-changing.

Top Best Affair Sites


Ashley MadisonSafest Married Affair Dating Website

Highlights & Features
  • Mask icon hides your face to keep your spouse from tracking your dating app use
  • One of the top free online affair dating apps for Google's Android and Apple's iOS operating systems
  • Messages and chat rooms to communicate with married wives or husbands looking for websites to cheat
  • Live chat with real 'cheaters' looking for quick booty calls
  • Option to give gifts

Ashley Madison is one of the biggest online dating sites for cheating out there. So it usually has the most options and selection of potential partners.

One nice thing about Ashley Madison is their extra secret protections with discreet billing, a generic interface when are caught by surprise by your loved ones, and digital protections against data breaches.

If you’re a guy, this site is great for meeting women in their 30s and 40s, many of them are sexy and willing to give anyone a chance. One of my all time favorite affairs happened on this site, with a woman who let me stay in her mansion while her lawyer husband was off traveling for ‘business’ (he was also having an affair himself so I didn’t feel guilty about it in the slightest).

  • Tech security systems are strong
  • One of the largest easy discreet hookup apps with 20 years of expertise
  • People seem super excited to cheat on here
  • Some bots generate fake messages
  • Intrusive advertisements
  • Need verbal persuasion to get in married women's out of their panties
Our Rating of Ashley Madison


Reddit AdulteryOne of the Best Free Dating Sites for Affairs

Highlights & Features
  • 54000+ registered users and 400+ online members
  • Card, Compact, or Classic front homepage outline
  • Search New, Hot, Top, or Controversial posts first
  • Hundreds of people post every day in this community

The Reddit Adultery community attracted tens of thousands of members talking about their heated affairs and marital issues in the hopes of getting emotional support from anyone willing to listen.

Many of these secret affair posts are non-sexual and the group mostly gives advice and provide a safe haven for discreet online discussions about these base issues plaguing people over 50 in marriages they hate.

My advice to these women; either learn how to suck dick good or turn lesbian. No teeth, deep throat, and swallow. That’s one of the best ways to recover from being found out in my humble opinion.

  • Simple to join, easy to post, and lots of replies
  • Always someone willing to talk and listen to your marital problems
  • Remain anonymous if you choose
  • Mobile website and apps work great with any Android or Apple or desktop PC or Mac
  • Not good for hooking up to cheat, but best for pouring out your heart
  • Some people are delusional, toxic, and emotional messes internally screaming out for help and companionship
  • Challenging to find sex relationships outside of marriage
  • No pics on the social pages so you won't know who you're talking to
  • Anybody can log on, including lunatics and/or your wife or husband
  • Harder to get sex here than other sites to have an affair
Our Rating of Reddit Adultery


GleedenAffair App By Women for Women

Highlights & Features
  • Ratio of women to men is 40-60
  • Android ran by Google and iOS ran by Apple OS compatibility
  • Popular in India since 2016
  • Talked about in respected contemporary media magazines and news outlets like CNN, ELLE, New York Times, and Cosmopolitan
  • Hide your identity
  • 24/7 moderators monitoring posts
  • Credit packages for men: €10 - 25, €30 - 100, €80 - 400

Tons of adult cheating husbands and married wives need a low-key affair club for online booty calls that keeps them cloaked secrecy while jumping for glee to meet locals for casual kisses.

Gleeden blossomed in 2009 and lured 6+ million cheaters, singles, and flirting sex partner friends. The majority are from the European Union, and the others are from over 159 countries.

One year Gleeden’s signups exploded the second Monday of Christmas in January. So what’s your New Year’s Resolution?

Women are the inspiration for two brothers to create this website after listening to martial issues from their fellow female employees and wanted to create a solution.

Many professionals and individuals gave this app bad reviews, but my experiences have been positive. However, I strongly suggest that men seeking married women and women seeking married men should avoid buying credits and go for the long terms register because almost half of your tokens will be wasted on messaging fake and dead profiles.

  • Free
  • Real people
  • Fun Facebook articles and videos
  • User features in a central location
  • Paid credits to do more stuff
  • Some fake profiles and low amount of replies
  • Half of the world's countries, including the United States, can't create profiles on the site (Have to lie about where you're from)
  • Overcharging mistakes a month from now on your account
Our Rating of Gleeden


Victoria MilanWebsite for Free Secret Online Affairs

Highlights & Features
  • Panic button if someone you love walks in the room while you're surfing the site
  • Automatic login and email alerts
  • Google and Apple mobile applications are compatible to use here
  • 6 million worldwide users and a half of million of them are in Europe and Scandinavia
  • Top grade 256-bit SSL experts protection and Norton industry security packages
  • Search for single and married people near you
  • Anonymous sign up
  • Credit cards, wire, Bitcoin, PayPal register banking processes
  • Happy, positive Facebook page
  • Month to month members priced at $50/3 months, $49/6 months, $30/12 months

Victoria Milan is one of the top affair dating websites of 2010 with base features like sending heart love gifts, winking, and pimpin’ out your profile page.

Remain anonymous on this search-style fuckbook that blurs your face so no one in your area recognizes you. Choose your profile biological type, size, weight, measurements, and several more features.

Surprisingly, Victoria Milan says that users from Chicago spend the most time on these dating apps followed by those in New York, Houston, and Dallas. I guess big cities have big marital problems.

One warning I gotta give as a moral police officer. Think twice about getting a month base subscription because several Victoria Milan reviews are reporting getting fleeced for more money than expected. Their home office is in Malta and financial laws differ with less legal protections.

  • Sophisticated, elegant energy
  • Nice selection of late-night big booty escorts
  • Informative blog regarding instant, easy hookups, and one night stands
  • Some fake profiles generating messages
  • Couple of hundred thousand active members
  • Have to choose your height and weight based on centimeters and kilograms, which is confusing to United States members using a different metric system
  • No video chatting
  • Always asking to sign up
Our Rating of Victoria Milan


No Strings AttachedLocal Affair Listings for Sex

Highlights & Features
  • GoDaddy.com sites security
  • Free membership
  • No identifying information
  • Instant reminders to upgrade to VIP service for $149/12 months, $59/3 months, $30/1 month
  • Visa, MasterCard, Diners Club, check, electronic ACH

Google ‘No Strings Attached’ and a ton of movies, books, and other related NSA shit will result.

Make sense because this very special dating site has been operational for 14 years facilitating affairs by matching up prospects in terms of their long-term relationship select statuses; single or attachment (married).

  • Easy click-through tabs
  • People cum only for the sex; nothing long-term
  • Certainly mostly real genuine profiles
  • Generic online dating sites designs - nothing special
  • List of people who live near you (risky exposure!)
  • Some scammers and fake profiles
  • Mobile use issues
Our Rating of No Strings Attached


Adult Friend FinderTop Rated Adult Dating Site

Highlights & Features
  • Search men, women, couples, trans by body type, sex, and race
  • Can give gifts to someone you like
  • Can use most credit cards

I have reviewed this website several times because it’s time most trusted dating service at the number 1 spot and has 80+ million users and counting. Its existence is based on extramarital mystery hookups so you’re not the only one creeping around on here.

  • Worldwide infidelity
  • Quick registrations
  • Free version available
  • Keep members' privacy safe
  • Find any quality type of person imaginable
  • Can't do much match-based stuff without a paid membership
  • Became a victim of one of the largest hacks on the net
  • Only Gold members are allowed to message
  • No particular groups for affair services
Our Rating of Adult Friend Finder


Craigslist ActivitiesFree & Secretive Website for Married Dating

Highlights & Features
  • Completely free
  • Search for activities by cities
  • Find posts by miles from your zip code
  • Dated posts
  • Save searches you like

Having an affair was so much easier with the Craigslist Personals, but since the H.R. 1865 FOSTA bill against human trafficking was passed alternative ones started growing.

One alternative is Craigslist Activities – the best way to remain anonymous while cheating. You don’t need to set up a profile or nothing. Just leave a post anonymously or message privately and wait for the responses you will love.

However, you don’t know who you’re talking to, so tell them to get on webcam or shoot you some pics in whatever position you’ve requested.

You need to remember something. The Activity Partners section is not just for sex. There are citizens looking for real help for their non-sexual activities. So don’t email a yoga instructor or a sports coach for sex. You might get in troublemakers with Craigslist.

Also, some cities have more sexual posts than others; for example, Orlando has a bunch of sports, church, and translator activities but New Hampshire, for some reason, has a bunch of sexual posts.

  • Can stay anonymous - fuck and leave no traces
  • Can creep around in other cities to avoid getting caught
  • No direct way to contact a person; communications are done through discreet emailing unless a phone number is in the post
  • Can narrow down the search to a particular area
  • Dangerous, there ain't nothing but trouble on Craigslist because of the type of people it attracts - criminals and low-income recipients
  • No guarantee of meeting someone for an affair
  • No guaranteed responses
  • Easy for husbands or wives to create a fake profile to catch you
Our Rating of Craigslist Activities


Kik Affair GroupsPopular & Fun Affair Site/App to Meet Singles

Highlights & Features
  • Several affair groups have a set number of slots
  • Name of user at the bottom of the circular portrait
  • Upload YouTube videos, memes, and your surfing history to others
  • Start your own group

Kik is a popular top ten online dating service in the world. Just type in your interest, which would be ‘affair’, and you will find relevant groups categorized by a hashtag. Post a message and someone in the group will respond and you will get notification dings on your mobile device. You can remain anonymous and meet new people.

  • Only a couple clicks to sign up
  • Easy to join a group and meet married people for counseling
  • Watch out for underage teens because they love Kik and sometimes pretend to be adults
  • Only 50 people can join a group
Our Rating of Kik Affair Groups


Horny WifeBest Horny Cheating Wives Website

Highlights & Features
  • Webcam, instant messages to contact horny wives
  • Age, body type, race and marriage status
  • Chat rooms, live cam, sex academy
  • 12 months/€239.40, 3 months/€80.85, one month/€39.95
  • Visa, MasterCard, Maestro, JCB, and SEPA payments
  • Toll-free phone help or live chat assistance
  • Has a connection to Adult Friend Finder
  • Lots of sexual talk

Horny Wife has plenty of lonely housewives ready to cheat on their husbands. I like the friendly energy of the women. There are over 97 million registered users and 2 million people online. When I logged on Sunday there were only 67,000 online.

You can meet these housewives by reading their profiles, but you need a membership to see their photo galleries. Registration is cut and dried only requesting the age, sex, and race of the women you want to meet.

  • You will meet horny MILFS
  • Small number of fake reviews
  • Generic user interface
  • You are required to write a bio and verify email address before going forward with an account
  • Prices have increased over the years
Our Rating of Horny Wife


Illicit EncountersBest for UK Affairs and Horny Wifes

Highlights & Features
  • 1.2 million users and 1000 online chatting Sunday evening
  • You can talk to the support team from 9am-10pm 7 days throughout the week
  • Virtual gifts
  • Regular membership: €144 for a month, €279 for a year. Gold membership: €196 for a month, €349 for a year
  • Coin charges €50 for 20,000, €20 for 3000

Illicit Encounters is a leading married dating website in the UK full of cougars and milfs. Featured in the BBC and The Guardian, this is a very assistive site with a lot of clout. For example, if you don’t have an expressive skill in writing like I do, then you can answer a multiple-choice personality questionnaire about what you like and they will generate a bio for you. No other dating site has that feature.

  • Extramarital site on the internet since 2003
  • Active moderators
  • Guaranteed to find someone
  • Auto-bio generator based on your answers to the questionnaire
  • Can remain completely anonymous
  • Live site that feels good
  • Never been hacked - That's a real historic feat!
  • UK and Ireland users only
  • Low registered users and responses
  • No 24/7 customer service
  • Auto-renewal charges might catch you off-guard
  • Crawling with gold diggers
  • Bots with generated fake messages
  • Too many horror stories from users
  • Expensive
  • Dormant profiles
  • No mobile app
  • More guys than girls
Our Rating of Illicit Encounters

How to Use the Best Affair Sites

After reading this list, you probably already know how to use them by now. Using an affair site is just like using any other dating site. Just create a new email address, think of a username and make a password that you can remember. Once this information is in the system, you can verify your email address by clicking on it. You might be asked to give your credit card details so you can do more things on the website.

Free vs Paid

The free sites are the best ways to stay anonymous, but they’re risky because you don’t know who you’re meeting. You could be getting in the bed with a clingy crazy person and wouldn’t know until it’s too late.

On the flip side, paid affair sites are a bit safer because you know exactly who you are meeting, but your pic is exposed so people living nearby might know who you are.  Be sure to use a mask or hold something in front of your face to lower this risk. With paid sites, you also get a better quality choice of men and women.

Final Word About These Married Love Sites Review

Why do people cheat? Some men say it’s in their blood. You can’t stop them from doing it. Some wives become angry by their husband and yearn for an emotional connection with someone new.

Studies show that if a man’s income exceeds by at 75% of his wife’s he is more likely to cheat. I guess the more money he makes the more tempting options get thrown before him.  Just think of big celebrities like Arnold Schwarzennegger,  he got caught having one affair because he had a kid with the woman.  But just imagine the dozens of women he was never caught ‘cheating’ with.

Hopefully, you found this list of sites useful, let me know in the comments what you feel the best affair site is, or what you think of my list of sites.

Before becoming a full-time writer, he was a hardcore porn watcher spending 12-hour days surfing xxx adult websites for 20 years. He has witnessed the drastic change of internet porn over the years and is your guide to the past present and future of the adult industry.

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